Children see everything as a communication

As I blogged yesterday children are conditioned to judge at early ages. Well judging is not discernment, we use discernment to protect us from harm from others or ourselves and it should be used every day. When we judge someone or something we are releasing toxic thoughts that prevent us from experiencing to the fullest. If a child only sees people as ugly or stupid they aren't inclined to want to be with those people they view that way. But if a child just sees someone or something for just what it really is they will continue to be in that flow with those things they will be willing to learn, stay open to all ideas, always have empathy, compassion and love.

Cadence my 6 year old daughter informed me last night that she hated a child in our community because I did. WOW OUCH! I don't say I hate anyone, this was an eye opener. "OK" I said. "Why in the world do you think I hate so and so?" She replies "well....." tons of hesitation in her voice but finally hands it over. "You always act mad around them, you never look happy about them being around either. Plus you say they get on your nerves all the time." I held judgment for sure for this child in the past that is the truth. Did I know that my child was seeing all this without me telling her directly? NO WAY! I thought I did a good job hiding it. I have since released all that because understanding myself has allowed me to see that this child was only a reflection for me and that one I would have to go within to resolve. That child is perfect in every thing they do, they taught me a lot and I haven't shared that with Cadence because I wasn't aware she picked up on my past thoughts to begin with.

Back to Cadence; she really loves hanging out with this child but doesn't outside of school anymore so she just sees all this ad up and makes her own conclusion and puts her own feelings aside to do what she thinks by my actions I am doing and wants to hate her friend too. She is using her condition of judgment from her parents to complete her own relationships. Our children listen when we don't think they are. They read our body language the only way they know how and add in our actions to boot and now everything has become communication to them. Was it clear? No. Did it need to be for them to get something out of it? No. But if it had been clear communication there would have never been judgment at all on either side of the table.

I am sure when I said what I did say months ago I used words like: I'm mad, I'm angry, I'm sick of them. And to a child I was saying I am the mad, I am the anger, and I am the sickness. That became the new me she couldn't have read past it. IT WAS THE ME...... This new way of communicating (I have anger, I have mad running through me) doesn't allow me to stop feeling those emotions (we all have to allow those) it just allows me to really understand who and what I am getting upset about. It also still allows our children to see us still being the same person just expressing a feeling outward. Because of this new frame of communication those emotions run through me; they come and go like they should. I don't become them and I don't hold tight all day for as long as I use to.



Everything is communication with your child! What are you saying today?