Children judge at ealy ages....

We have conditioned our children to judge as we judge. A mother holds a 2 year old and is watching a storm she says out loud its icky outside, I hate it when it storms and its 90 degrees outside! A father is watching the news with his 14 year old son and yells stupid idiot at the TV after just learning a man had robbed a bank earlier that day. A grandfather is driven in traffic with 5 of his grandchildren he begins to honk and starts flipping people off in frustration of others driving habits.



I said children are conditioned because its about the things we teach our children when we don't think we are. In school children judge the teacher, the principle, the home wok, the other students, them selves, the food all the way down to what kind of weather is outside. Most of the children's judgement isn't their own but those of their parents. Maybe the parents have stated they didn't care to much about the principle, now to please the parents the child will have the same idea about the principle.


Imagine a world were children could watch a movie without judging anything or anyone they were watching but were able to just really enjoy what they were watching at that time. Imagine children who never said stupid, idiot, shut up, or any other degrading remark they could come up with. When I see children use the word stupid I do not judge it I just ask "where have they heard that before that makes the child think its OK to say?" They heard it somewhere.....


When we truly break down what judgement is its about understanding who and what we are because through that process you begin to see there is nothing to judge. A good starting point for this is to understand your identity. Example: I am angry, I am mad, I am sad, I am frustrated, I am happy. You have now become that; basically I am the anger, I am the mad, I am the sad and so on and so on. But when you stop and understand these are emotions that run through you you can clearly communicate them to others and yourself while keeping your true identity in a loving place. Example: I have anger, I have the feeling of mad running through me, I have frustration and so on. When we allow these emotions to become us then judgement now has room to move into our lives. When we can see anger as not being one with us then we still keep that identity of loving people in our lives. But when we become the anger, the frustration not only do we judge others we begin to judge ourselves its a very toxic relationship there.


If you want real change in your life and your children's lives go within see what your needs are, what are your children's needs. What are we clearly communicating to ourselves and to others?