You do things to make you happy no one else?

The picture tells the story of what I am about to write:


I was told last night while getting Cadence ready that she wanted to wear what she wanted to wear to the Christmas program to make her happy not me or her father. I realized that asking her to wear what I wanted to this program was forcing my ideals onto her, but man when your a parent of such a beautiful child it is so hard to just let them go as they please. Because she is so beautiful I try so hard to make her clothes match and be a style that's with the "IN" times; completely wrong of me to do I know and I catch myself a lot with both my girls.

So last night while getting her dressed I had a really cute outfit from a friend that I wanted her to wear, but she saw another outfit from her own friend that really wasn't right for the program but yet she wanted to wear. I told Cadence that I really wanted her to wear my outfit because she was beautiful in it, that purple and gray was her Gandmaws favorite colors (throwing that out normally works), that her father would just love to see her in it. Nothing worked, this smart child looked at me and said it's my program, I have to wear what I want to wear to make myself happy no one else.

I laughed another friend of mine laughed and we couldn't believe how she was so sure of herself with what she said. The thing is she was right on, she no matter what anyone else may think needs to wear or not wear to express herself to make only her happy. A lesson I want her to keep in her life, not something I taught her something she carried with her as she came into this life.

She wore what I asked and was just as happy, she did so not losing her value she still knew what mattered was what she wanted to do or wear to make herself happy. But I think she did wear what I asked because that is the type of child she is, she doesn't want to disappoint us and now I must look at my projections from this to learn what my child already knows!! That we are self fulling at all times, that we make and love ourselves in every situation, that we only matter to the most important people US!!!