The relationship between siblings

This morning I had the pleasure of waking to my beautiful children hugging once again they were loving on each other and telling each other how much they will miss each other while at school today. Cadence told Caitlin to have a wonderful and exciting day at school just before her little sister got on the bus. I continued helping Cadence with her hair before I took her on in for her big, wonderful, and exciting day at her school.

As I brushed her hair I remembered what I watched the other night on Oprah's Master Class series. She had Diane Sawyer talking about her life and a small bit of her childhood that shaped her into who she was and instead of her father asking if she learned a lot today (at school) he would ask "did you ask a lot of big, important questions?" So this morning when Cadence got out of the car I told her to ask a lot of big important questions, because I too realized that it isn't about what the teachers always wants to teach but about getting our children involved in the learning/ teaching process.

Cadence lets me know everyday just how much learning and teaching is so important to shape our children. She loves to learn, but more important than that she loves to teach. She teaches her little sister so much and just about every minute of the day she makes sure that she is doing that, not just for Caitlin but for her self she understands to be a great teacher we must have to be  great student. I see so much love between these two siblings and as a parent of both I have the job to allow that loving relationship to branch off and become stronger. When one of them has a moment of anger and one hits the other, now who ever hits will take complete care of that sibling for the rest of the night. I don't want to teach our actions are wrong or bad, I want to teach how we control those emotions and how to care for one another instead of making one feel less important then the other.

On a day where my own brother has taken steps to delete me out of his life I now see that when we get hit we don't hit back. If he wants to delete me from his life then he can, the only tie we have to each other is the one we think we have. I use to think I only had one brother but I don't I have millions and I have hundreds who live in my own city. He needs to take me out so he can put another women in his life and I learned when I feel I need him I am lacking something within.

I don't lack within because I do realize completely that I don't need him and I haven't for a long time and that is what the relationship between siblings is about, it is showing us that we are complete they are just a mirror of what we think we need or don't need. So to my brother I release you to be who you are; I will no longer trap you in my mirror.