Childhood is about research not mistakes

I got a phone call from the school one day last week that my daughter has told a story that disturbed many students as well as the parents. So I listened as a Mother should and gave my belief to what I thought was true and fact. My daughter was fantastic in that she took responsibility for her story, she did not sit in the office and lie about what she had done nor did she try to make up for it. There was nothing to be sorry for! That day she was doing research on what 1st grade boys will laugh at and she found out what that was, there was no mistake in that.

Did I talk to my daughter about the content of what her story was about? Yes because after all she is still 6 and she still has to know what is appropriate at her age. Did I tell her how wrong it was? No, when we do things in our innocence how are they wrong? She was in Atonement "Pure perfect love" she was trying to bring smiles upon the faces of her Friends.

I spent all day thinking about what I was going to do or say to this child. How would I talk to her without taking her belief about herself away. I played over and over again how this would take place, then by talking with my Mothers I found that there was nothing to be said about what she did. That when I gave this conversation over to God to handle for me that he would correct this in his perfect love.

I had a very deep meaningful conversation with Cadence about what she said and she was so big about it and took 100% to heart and moved on like she should have. Now if I had taken her esteem away, or told her how wrong she was or bad that she was nothing positive would have gone to her heart just a life time of hurt of "why can't my mother love me for me?".

I could place blame on the boys involved but to blame is to say someone was wrong and none of those children are wrong for anything that day. They laughed; it was funny to them. Parents got angry; it was the view something was taken from them or their child. Everyone received what they needed from this research including my daughter and this family.

Next time we get upset about something that was said we must pause and ask "what do I think was taken from me?" If it was fear my daughter was being hurt at home that drove them to complain they have to ask "what was it that was taken from me when I was a child that hurt?". Fear and Anger come from the belief you are personally being attacked. Nothing that really exist can be attacked because it lives with God in his perfect union with it. Fear and anger do not really exist our Ego's make that real for us. When we move past that we can accept that children are children and like us they do not make mistakes only research!