What we say to our children really does matter :)

As parents we have a responsibility to our children to clearly communicate with them, we expect the same from them do we not?

Clear communication sounds easy enough:
Clean your room
Help me with the dishes
Take the trash out

The list can go on forever about the things you think you clearly say to them and everyone in your life. But when we pull the words apart we see such unclear thought and communication and not just to others bu.t ourselves. When you judge to clean do you clean because you feel you have to? Because its right in others eyes to clean? Are you ashamed of your mess (your wrong doing in your own home)? Or because your bettering yourself and your family?

Example: Go clean up your room- The statement alone is a judgmental statement. You see a mess (a verb to describe a judgement) your child sees a world of wonder just for them to explore. If you tell your child the statement below they can hear you clear (your true intention) and understand why things are kept in order.

New statement: When I come into your room its hard to walk with toys on the floor, I or someone else could get hurt. Can you please find a new home for them that's safe for us and them?"

With this new statement we haven't told the child they were wrong for anything. Telling our children there is a mess to be picked up does tell them deep down some where they were bad or wrong for something. They could flip that to "I can't do anything right, I can't even play right!" Of course they would do this to themselves, when things are done right or good would you call that a mess? NOPE LOL

Today this information was provided to me out of a book called "What You Say Matters". My Mother had called to share what she was learning for her Higher Mind, Lower Mind power points then she began to share what the book had said about communication and our children. Now I've not quoted the book and had to just go with the flow here to bring some light out on this subject but I felt the desire to do so and I listen to all my desire these days :).

I didn't share with her till later in our conversation what took place in my home this afternoon but learning this just put me more at ease that I'm on the right path with the way we parent our children.

What took place this afternoon

Around 2:30 I place judgement on my house but instead of using my old judging mind I stated "My flow would be better if.....". In my old way I would have said "My house needs to be cleaned!" So Cadence walked into the room where I am moving things around and the first thing she said to me was that she was so sick of cleaning, that the house was clean. I told her I wasn't cleaning I just wanted to get the flow moving in the rooms. She ran to the kitchen got glass cleaner and a rag, came into the living room, put them on the floor and went to get the vacuum. She was just so excited to help.

Without asking she dusted the T.V, our glass end table, and the computer screen. All of this was done because I was clear with my communication to my child. My intention was straight forward, I didn't lie to her about how I felt inside not thinking for one moment she couldn't possibly know what flow was. I didn't judge the house so she still saw it as clean and the need for improvment only. I was clear on all levels of what I was looking for and she was willing to give 100% of her service to me in that moment.


What we say really does matter!!!!