Children in a materialistic world......What??????

Yup I said it lol we are in a world that teaches children materialism. I did this just today in my own home.....

I placed value on an object I was given and wouldn't allow my children to play with it. Okay so I am going to break this down for you.

The moment my girls got a hold of some of my cards I felt the need to protect them. I asked the girls to please put them back but they refused not seeing my need to have them put up. I told them again I needed them to put my cards back, they refused once again still not seeing my need for them to be put away.           (I never truly expressed my need b/c I couldn't even explain it to myself) So at this point for some reason I wanted to cry, I really wanted to have a brake down but instead of doing that I reached for anger to the point I wanted to start yelling inside and out "PUT MY CARDS BACK" but I didn't go there either. I did finally just take them away so my internal world could calm down to give me room to look within to see what my deal was in the first place. I never noticed this about me before!!!

What did my children just learn? That I don't trust them to play with my unimportant cards? That my stuff is more important then their need to explore? No wonder our children scream "MINE" all the time and starting at early ages. SO DO WE lol... They can't share because adults can't share either. How can an object hold such value to us? Why do we value items that can't even provide us anything back?

Simple; we think by placing value on objects that others have given us or past down to us that it will keep our connections with those people, not true one bit! Is this what we want to show our children? Do we want them to see that objects are put on high shelves to be viewed only? If we do we are also showing them how to create idols with no meaning over real relationships.

I want my children to learn that I value their need to explore, that I value our time together in real connections, that I do trust them to play with my things so that they can see how to trust others with their things. I want to show them our connection in our hearts live longer and stronger then any item could ever provide.

My moment of a two year old fit showed me that my actions speak way louder then my words, that I have got to release my attachments to objects with no connection so I can better gain connections with the ones I love. If I spend my life telling my children they can't explore my things I will spend a life time away from knowing who my children are.



HMLM:

Belief statement:

My girls playing with my things makes me mad, I think that they will just lose them. I gain frustration while losing real relationships.

Spirit statement:

My girls playing with my thing makes me joyful, I think they respect them. I am calm and in real relationships